My Apology Letter to a Very Special Friend

by Stewart
(UK)

To my dear friend who I hurt terribly and miss so badly... I just want to say I'm sincerely sorry for putting you through my overdose. I know I made it seem like your fault, but it was never your fault, I was lying to myself and it was easier to blame you than to realise that.

I can’t believe I did that -- after the overdose everything just fell apart, we argued and argued and argued.

I know I’m probably the last person you want to hear from, but please hear me out. I don't know where to start so I’ll start with this; I’m really upset that our friendship is gone and it's made me miserable for the past couple of months.

Every time we fought it hurt me more, and now we’re not even talking anymore, let alone friends. I'm really struggling without you now, we used to be best friends and you mean a lot to me, more than you know.

I hate fighting, especially with you. My mistake ruined our friendship and I don't know how to make things right between us. Knowing that I did this to my best friend kills me. I don't know what I was thinking and I hate myself for it.

Our friendship is too valuable to me to end over this. To find another friend like you would be impossible, you’re caring, patient, funny... I can go on and on, and it doesn't feel right without you anymore.

I didn't mean for things to be like this and wish I could take everything back to when we were close friends, I know I can't but I can show you that this will never happen again and I'm still the guy you trusted and thought of as your best friend.

I keep apologising because I’ve been completely in the wrong to be so inconsiderate and act like I have, I wasn't the friend I should have been but I don't want to lose you because I think you're worth holding on to, I don't know why, but whenever I had a bad day, or week you always made me feel better, you were one of the few who could do that.

I'm honestly heartbroken things are like this, I don't want my mistake to ruin our friendship and it would mean so much to me if you could give me a second chance.

You genuinely mean the world to me and I can't believe how much I miss you. I know you find it hard to trust and I’ve made it even harder for you to trust me and it'll take time for you to feel ready to talk.

I'm ready to wait until you can talk to me. A lot of people walk in and out of my life but you're one of the few I ever really wanted to stay, and until I make things right with you, you're going to be constantly on my mind.

I really do miss you so much and I don’t want to lose you. I made a mistake, and I really regret it. I don't think it's worth ending our friendship over though, I hope you think that too.

I haven’t changed, I know I seem like I have but I really haven’t. You did see something in me and I hope I get the chance to show you that it is still here and prove to you I’m still someone you can trust.

I’ve been a terrible friend for the last few months, but I think I was a good friend before, couldn’t we try and go back to that?

This wasn’t easy for me to write, and I hope this letter helps show you just how I feel, how much you mean to me and how sorry I am. Whatever you decide I'll always treasure our friendship and the good times we had. We went through a lot together, and you’re one of the few people I trust. You’re very special to me; I’d go through hell for you. I hope you know that.

Please accept this apology and I hope you can forgive me; I can’t help believing everything will turn out okay, because I find it hard to think of my life without you in it anymore, and I’ll always be there for you. Please text or call me if you decide you can give me a chance.

Thank you for being my friend.

Wishing you well and waiting for your reply,
Stewart
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some girls faked news
by: Anonymous 2

I just had a fight with my friend yesterday, some of the girls in our class faked some news saying that I said that she was fake while I did not. I see her as a true friend and they said I said that she wasn’t there when I needed her but she was with me in hard times while others were not. I want her back so bad because I love our friendship, but she won't believe me. She thinks am lying to her.

omg
by: Emry anderson

I told my best friend's bf something she didn't want him to know yet and this helped a lot.

I’m very sorry
by: Fernando

Dear bsf, I want to apologize for hurting you. I really missed you. I’m sorry for putting you through my bs, I know I made you feel horrible while you were near me.

I’m sorry I made you worried about me many times over, and over. You’re a very independent strong and smart person. I might be the last person you want to hear from but please hear me out.

I don’t want to fight anymore. I’m sad we don’t even text anymore. Without you I feel alone again. I’m struggling without you now, you mean a lot to me. I hate fighting with you.

My mistake ruined one of my favorite friendships. I don’t know how to make things right with you, knowing that I’ve been very mean. I wouldn’t forgive myself either.

I don’t know what I was thinking to hurt you like this. It kills me inside knowing I did this.

I’m very sorry for all the bad things I did to you and ignored you when you needed help. I’m asking for forgiveness, and promise that this won’t happen again. You're very special to me and knowing I’ll lose my sister hurts. Can I please fix this somehow?

I'm Sorry
by: Anonymous

Dear Friend,

I hope this letter finds you well in your dream. I’m sorry for all the pain and misery that I have caused you when we were younger.

I know that my behaviour was unacceptable towards you, and I know saying sorry will not make the pain I have caused you go away. I wish I could meet up with you and apologise to you in person for what I have caused but I wouldn't be able to remember your face even if we met.

I only remember your childhood face and so much must have changed now. Back then, we were young. After I got older, I realised that Karma is real and what goes around comes around.

When I was at primary and secondary school, I did not have a good primary and secondary school life. What I did to you, did happen to me when I was at school and it made me think of the pain and emotions you've felt.

If I could meet you again, I hope we can become good friends and I hope you can forgive me for my mistake. I am trying to be a better person and if there was a person that I wanted to apologise to before leaving, it was you.

All i can say is.....
by: Jenna

Thank you so very much for helping me with the love of my life I haven't been the bestest of friends to him.

Thanks!
by: Anonymous

I'm best friends with her again!!!

Wow
by: Anonymous

All I can say is, WOW! When I found this letter it hit home. I lost my best friend because I fell in love with him.

I reacted emotionally to something he said and I blew up his phone. I'm not going into detail but I've tried everything in hopes he'll talk to me again.

I've already texted similar apologies to him in much smaller form. It's just how this is worded, it's perfect.

I couldn't say it better myself. I changed some of it to suit my situation. I added my own charm to the hand written pages. I hope it works. He's irreplaceable and I miss him so much.

Best
by: Sadiq

This is extremely extraordinary, it brought my relationship back, thank you.

Thank you for this letter. It inspired me.
by: Bianca

I apologized to my friend based on statements made in this letter. I changed things to match what happened with us and thankfully we're friends again.

I have tears in my eyes.
by: Noga

This was the most beautiful apology letter I have ever read. OMG!

Oh wow
by: Anonymous

This is such a good apology letter, I wish I could use this on my friend whom I had an argument with on Saturday but I already wrote an apology letter which sucks.

Amazing.
by: Anonymous

A couple weeks ago me and my friend got into a pretty bad fight. I copied and pasted it, and I haven't got a response yet. She should be reading it right now. All I wanna say, is thank you for helping me become more stronger towards my apologies, I wouldn't have wrote such a sad apology if it wasn't for this website. Thank you.

how i took it
by: Mee

this letter brought great pain towards me. I have had friends who have tried to kill themselves. But this letter just truly says it all.

Great work
by: Mildred

This is wonderful.

Tautologies
by: Ayo

The letter is quite marvelous. I used it for an assignment but the fact that it is too long and has lots of tautologies is very bad.⭐⭐⭐3 stars is my rating out of 5

wow, just wow
by: Anonymous

Thanks for the letter it helped me a lot with my problems.

wow
by: Dick

Guys thanks. Man I was really crying when I read the letter.

I felt it. Good job.
by: Anonymous

This will be my first time ever commenting and responding to a stranger online. But the person that wrote "The fact that you cant think of your own apologies shows how you don't really care that much about the person you are apologizing to."

I hope you realize that for anyone looking up how to apologize correctly is already showing that they care.

They care so much that they want to make sure they are coming off as sincere as they feel, not everyone is good at writing. Just like you and how you misspelled the most important word. It's important to address, take ownership and make sure that you write clearly so it’s believable.

It could be someone’s last chance with rebuilding a friendship. Why would you half ass it? I am proud of the ones that searched, because you’re showing you MORE than care.

Good luck to those of you!

i disagree with this
by: Anonymous

If I'm honest, I think that if you need to come here and find apologies so you can apologize to someone, they don't deserve it. The fact that you cant think of your own apologies shows how you don't really care that much about the person you are apologising to.

🥺
by: Anonymous

Allow me to use this to apologize. 😭 thanks

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From the PA Team

Of course you can use parts of this letter. Our apology letters are here to inspire others to apologize. The most important part is to tailor it and modify it to your own situation--that will make it more sincere and heartfelt.

In the process of this kind of situation
by: Anonymous

Your letter really helped me in my hard times. Thank you for such a good sample which helps someone like me to understand better.

Do not shove me into a pole.
by: Anonymous

My friend and I had a heated argument. I knew she could blow up into an intense and dangerous rage because she had done it many times before. When we were friends it started as friendly banter, but slowly it built up, and became more one-sided.

She isn't my closest or best friend, but she was a good friend to be with.

Our heated argument ended up with her pushing me into a pole; I cried, of course, it hurt emotionally and physically.

My best friend and my closest friends helped me up, and due to my dizziness, I couldn't think straight and I went straight for her.

I was only meant to shove her slightly to show how conflicted I was, but in the stress, I pushed her and she fell head first into the wall.

I knew I made a mistake and tried to help her up, but she shook me off and yelled how I can't just push her into a wall just because she pushed me.

Obviously, I thought that felt unfair but then once she threw me to the floor and walked off, I knew my mistake.

My other classmate then told me that she said: "Tell Althea that we are not friends anymore, ever. And to not talk to me."

This helped me a lot to write an apology and I hope she returns the favor xoxo

Holy C***
by: Anonymous

I lost a good friend and used this. Waiting for a response now!!!

I'm sorry Jianna
by: Bri_ ❤️❤️

I lied to my best friend... but nobody knows how terrible I feel. I love this letter so much I started crying. And I hope that when she reads it, she will start to cry too.

I don't know if she will see this...she probably won't but if she does I want her to know that:

I'm sorry Jianna. You're my best friend and I love you so much.

I hope things can work out again and we can begin our friendship again.

To the person who wrote "Didn't work"...
by: Margaret

I'm not surprised it didn't work. Re-read what you wrote, it was all about me, me, me. If your apology note was in any way similar that is not an apology or shows any sincere regret or remorse, it's just venting.

You even end your comment with more me, me, me. That'll never work. Rethink your views on all this and look at the situation from others' point of view.

I wish you growth from this, it's all a part of our journey.

Blessings....

Didn't work
by: Anonymous

I used this as an idea to write to my best friend. She said I embarrassed her in front of everyone and I blamed it all on her.

After 3 weeks I finally texted her a long paragraph. It didn't work she said we could still be friends but we probably will never be best friends again.

When one little thing like this happened I was broken. I can't believe she did this.

I'm the reason her and her boyfriend are together. I was jealous of her happiness cause she never said thank you and she never gave me credit.

Even though I was jealous I never said anything cause I didn't want to ruin things for her and when I told her that she just said I should've told her and she wouldn't have gotten mad.

But if I did tell her she would've called me selfish and she would've said I should learn to be happy for others beside myself.

So I lost my best friend and I'm now realizing if she really was my best friend she wouldn't want to drop me this easily but still it hurts knowing shes moved on without me.

Missing Him
by: Anonymous

He was my best friend and I lost him because of my own foolishness. Don't do what I did.

Perfect apology letter
by: joanah

I really love this letter. Please allow me to use some of the sentences for my best friend :)

From...The Perfect Apology Team
The whole point of these letters is to inspire people with their own apology letters. Sometimes we just don't know what to write or say. Our goal here on the site is to help everyone learn how to apologize more effectively by reading what others have written.

Help
by: Anonymous

I did this but my friend still isn't willing to be mates with me .. I don't know what else to do and the tension between us is getting worse day by day.

Thank you!
by: Anonymous

I had argued with my best friends that I had known since birth and I didn't even know what to do until I had read your letter. For months I had put her as the fault, but know I understand that I was in the wrong and that I shouldn't have done that. Thanks!

Feeling bad without him
by: Anonymous

Hi,I m writing this note because I'm suffering from sadness and pain without my friend his name is Irfan.

We used to talk and chat daily via msgs via calls.Last Friday I had a quarrel with him, I shouted on him in front of others which hurt him a lot and he felt insulted.

Though I apologized for my mistake and for my bad behavior, things have changed. Now he is ignoring me and today I'm waiting to see his msgs and calls on my phone. But now calls and msgs have gone to zero from his end.

I think my friendship and love ended from his end but I will always love him forever.

Sorry
by: Anonymous

This helped me write a letter to my friend who I lost due to speaking without thinking first. It might not be enough to fix everything. I just don't know. It took several hours of thinking about what to put but I did it. I'm going to slip it into their locker at school.

I hope it works.

I hope it would work
by: Anonymous

I got inspired by this letter and I wrote one to my best friend, John, who's been ignoring me for the past year. I really hope everything will work out between the both of us. Wish me luck!

sorry
by: Anonymous

Sorry is a small word for the big mistake I have made. But believe me the price of my actions, I have heavily paid, without you. Every second without you is like a dagger in my heart.

Sorry Ivy
by: Jess

I had a friend i lost due my stupidity i'm planning to apologies publicly I hope I get her back
This letter has everything i feel and need to say

IVY I'M SORRY😢
I hope we continue being friends👭

Forgiveness
by: joanie

Thanks, it really worked for my bestie that I really love as a way to show how sorry I am.

Thanks
by: KIZITO

I'm in love with this letter.

Sorry to my friend Jordan
by: Nathaly

This letter is really good and I thought it would be good to write to my best friend Jordan because we got into this fight and we started to argue with each other until I found this letter. I started talking to him again because I really miss my Best Friend Jordan.

Thanks
by: Anonymous

This has worked very well, you really have a way with words and this also pulled me out of sadness

Heartfelt!
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much for this letter! Really love it! The words show your feelings, and that this letter is from the heart!! Really great! I wanted to apologize to my friend but couldn't think how!? So I just read your letter and it really has inspired me! Bless you!

Will try
by: Anonymous

I will give this a try with 3 of my friends that haven’t spoke to me for a while now. 😔

Thanks a lot
by: Anonymous

This apology got everything right with me and my bestie. ....thanks dear

Useful information
by: Asmo

Your words are very good. I used some of them.
It really worked, my friends back with me.
Thanks dear a lot... have great life.

thx sooo much
by: girl

thank you sooooo much for this because I have a best friend of 10 years who I love sooo much and she finally forgave me! again, thx!!!!!

Loneliness
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing. I lost a friend cause of my dramatic moments. I apologized to her right now and I hope she replies back

I 'm so sorry
by: Jsy Gee

I had 2 friends, one I knew I loved but the other I realised she meant so much 2 me. I've apologised 2 her but she pretends she's not hurt. I'm going 2 send her a letter like this cuz this has really inspired me. I'M GOING TO GET U BACK. I miss you so much.

Forgiveness
by: Ashantie S.

I have a friend and his name is Oscar. I feel so bad that I hurt him yesterday and he felt bad that he ended up saying "I'm sorry I won't ever disturb you again," and that hurt me very much since yesterday evening he has not being replying me till today. I'm apologising to him cause I value our friendship and I do not want him to walk out of my life... So I hope he forgives me. Cause he means the world to me.

wow
by: khushi

Wow your words are very nicely used. I used some.
It really worked my friends back with me. Everyone should read, if they want their friend back. Amazing.

Thank you
by: Linus

This is a really nice letter. I had a fight with a very, very special friend of mine a few days ago and I'm going crazy trying to figure out what to do. It was all my fault.

I was feeling taken for granted, and it's been that way a while, but I know my friend is going through a lot right now. I should have been more thoughtful beforehand, but I was just feeling so angry, and I said a bunch of stuff I shouldn't have said. Not so much that I was really mean or anything, just critical and I should have said what I said another way.

My friend accepted my apology and we're talking again, basically, but I know I have to watch myself, I'm on thin ice... I just don't want to lose my friend. This letter helped me think of some things I'd like to say.

Love
by: Nadeem

My friend does not want to talk to me and I miss her so much. Hopefully my heartfelt apology will set things straight.

my apology letter to a special friend
by: fatma farsy

I don't know how I can explain it. I used it and I have got my friend back... thanks a lot.

great
by: Anonymous

It is awesome. It has all the emotions for a real apology. Thanks buddy. Great job done!

Perfect
by: Anonymous

Thanks for sharing. I used part of it. It is perfect.

Indeed great
by: Anonymous

This is really great, it actually helped me a lot to know more about how close my friend is to me. Thanks so much.

How
by: Anonymous

You have always been my favorite you know that. But why do you make me struggle so hard when I try so hard at times. I want you to show me how much you care once in awhile. And not just in that way. Show me in a way I can do well and not struggle so bad and still be there for you too.

A good friend
by: Oluwatobiloba

I wish you guys would get back together soon because a good friend is very hard to find.

Touching letter
by: Anonymous

It's a really good letter but as long as you don't copy and paste the thing whole you should be good. An apology should come from the heart so copying and pasting wouldn't really be coming from you're heart. Lovely letter btw

I'm sorry
by: Pooja Khurana

Best of luck. I truly hope you and your best friend come back together--AND REALLY SOON! I actually just went through this with my best friend, and there were so many things in your letter that were echoing how I feel about my best friend and CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT HIM!

Goodluck
by: Anonymous

Your best friend is lucky to have someone like you. It's rare to have someone who does this for their best friend. I hope she forgives you. We all make mistakes. I did too... just this month, December. What's done is done, so we just have to accept it. Everything will be okay. Time will help. Goodluck with your friendship!

TY
by: Lost Girl

This helped me a lot. Thank you very very much. You are so inspirational.

Thank you
by: Anonymous

Thank you so much ....this letter helped me a lot.

it backfired
by: Anonymous

I used parts of your letter which I thought was great - but it backfired. Oh well.

thanks
by: Anonymous

Thanks man I really needed this for inspiration.

Perfect letter
by: Anonymous

This is the perfect letter, I am just in love with it.

wow
by: Anonymous

Thank you
You are a great friend and only after reading your letter did I realise what my friendship was worth. I quoted a bit of your apology, hope you don't mind...you're a great friend.

I miss you
by: Anonymous

I just want your friendship.. They way we would talk on snapchat. Day and night, the way were we would be on FB. Where we would laugh... and we were best friends.. On instagram.. we'd talk on dm.. I miss you.. You don't know how much I miss you. I miss our friendship Mary... I miss you. I miss our friendship Maryam Amer.

xyz
by: Anonymous

So heart touching, really made me cry. I hope you would also understand someday that I just want your friendship and nothing else. Please come back :'(

nice
by: nowrin

This is just perfect and heart touching. I would have forgiven anyone if I had gotten this letter.

Great apology
by: Anonymous

The apology was actually quite good but one of my friends sent this to myself and others and she said she wrote it!!! Otherwise cool apology.

Not great...
by: Anonymous

My friend sent this to me I automatically realized she copied and pasted it because it was broad and was not specific. Do not send this to a smart friend who can figure this out! Otherwise it is okay...

The Best Ever, TBE
by: Sacky

This is so touching and it means a lot, and it will get a person forgiven, it's really the best I've ever read...

Very Nice Apology
by: Shandy Nazareno

This is a very nice apology letter, best that I've ever read. I love it very much!

Thanks bro
by: mjd

This letter is pretty great. I love it. Thanks for this because I had to write something to my friend but I didn't have anything until your letter popped up so thanks, appreciate it.

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